Wednesday, 1 January 2014

My Wish For 2014


An Intricate Network Of Lies...

I can't believe that it is already 2014. I wish all my readers a great year, and I would like to thank you all for your continuous support. It means a lot to me, and thanks to you some great things are starting to happen to me. I haven't made any new year's resolutions...I am just too old for resolutions, and I never stick to them anyway. I just have a wish for 2014: I wish that we were all more honest, more direct, and less politically correct. Come on, wouldn't it be great? 



Just imagine: my home country is in denial....Growth is starting to arrive in the UK, but France is still lagging behind, hindered by lots of structural issues that are simply not being dealt with. This was reflected in Standard and Poor’s credit rating cuts at the start of November. Unemployment keeps rising (10.5% of the population according to the latest figures, an increase of 0.6% compared to last year), and the government’s only response seems to raise yet again already punitive taxes. Despite an increased life expectancy, the French president cut retirement age last year. In the meantime, the state sector keeps growing, and much-needed reforms to make it more competitive have yet to be implemented. In short, billions are wasted every year, and nobody bats an eyelid. I would love someone to say: 'hey guys, wake up and smell the coffee'. Nobody has done it just yet...




As for Great Britain, right now the newspapers are all about the so-called Romanian invasion, because some work restrictions have been lifted for a few Eastern European countries. Give me a break! On a similar note, I was walking close to the Lithuanian embassy, in Pimlico, the other day, with an American friend of mine. There was a long queue outside. Despite being an educated lady, she started a racist rant about the fact that 'these people' -i.e. the Eastern Europeans- had more rights than her in the European Union in general, and in the UK in particular. What a shame it was- she said. I couldn't believe it. Isn't America a land of immigrants? I didn't say anything. Maybe I should have. After all, I am one of 'these people' -an immigrant- too. And it didn't prevent me from becoming British eventually. I pay my taxes, I work, just like everybody else. Chances are, we all have at least one ancestor who was an immigrant. Nothing to be afraid of. We didn't steal anything. We just came to make a living. And we are here legally. I wish I had said this to her. I didn't.



That said, maybe all truths are not to be told. I wanted to say 'I don't want to see you any more because I think that you are a twat,' ! But surely I can’t say this. So instead I made my goodbyes and left. It made me realise that the number of little white lies I have to say is simply huge. But how can I be more honest without being too hurtful? I really wonder.  I need to keep trying. How do you say such things?



I suppose that I will just have to keep trying, right? So, after all, here is my new year’s resolution: to say what I think a bit more, or a bit louder. To be more, well, French…How about you: what is your resolution? When was the last time you lied?

25 comments:

  1. Nice to have found you through the challenge. Yes, America is he big ole' melting pot but that pot is very well seasoned with bigetts. You said she was a friend, and if this were true, I would take 2014 as an opportunity to express how idiotic her statements seemed to you...you'd be making the world a better place one person at a time. Cheers!

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    1. You are right. Of course you are right. I will try to confront her. Easier said than done...

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  2. Say it next time, Muriel!
    I have a co-worker who said something like that... "why did that family move here?" I said, dumbfounded, "Uhh... to work?" Like the rest of us and our ancestors!!
    People are amazing... don't hold back next time!

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    1. I will try, Lou, I will try. Some comments sometimes just take me by complete surprise...

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  3. I don't make resolutions either. I don't want to lose anything or give up anything, or make any drastic changes to myself or my life. Resolutions are about fantasy and programmed to fail. :)

    As for your friend, if she is toxic, stop seeing her. No one is perfect though, so if the only thing you don't like about her is that she makes the odd comment about immigrants, it might be a bit excessive to break off diplomatic relations. White lies help society keep going. If we all spoke the hard truth there'd be chaos and lots of punched noses. :)

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    1. The thing is, lots of people share her views. I don't get it. Of course some will always abuse the system. But most don't. I really don't understand why this is such an obsession right now. As for my friend, well, she is going back to the US. It should solve the problem.

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  4. A little bit more honesty would be great. I can be so gobsmacked that I am lost for words, too. Would have loved to hear what your 'friend's' answer to 'you're a twat' would have been :-) xx

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    1. I need to try it, right? That said, I am much too British to say it. Sad but true, right?

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  5. No resolutions for me this year onward. I'm just going to work at continuing to live a more peaceful existence in line with what is right for me.

    It's really amazing the mentality of people in the world sometimes. The media helps perpetuate a lot of it, and people willing fall for the propaganda or in-build bigotry. Every time I've been to England I've been met with complaints about some sector of society - welfare recipients, africans. Last time round it was the Polish! Here in Australia we have the 'boat people' who - according to the media - are here to totally destroy Australia, take all our jobs, our houses, our money. Comparatively speaking, Australia takes in a whole lot less refugees and immigrants when compared to most other Western countries. I had a huge argument with a family member the other day about Muslims taking over our country and that I was being blindly led astray by my Muslim friends. I had to work so hard to 1) not let my head explode, and 2) attempt to rationally state my case. In the end I had to walk away as there was no chance I was winning, but needless to say I was incredibly disappointed to here the 'white Australia' rant in 2013, especially from someone I love. Baby steps. If they can accept I am with an Anglo-Indian, then we are definitely getting somewhere!

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    1. You are right, Janine, it is all about baby steps. I don't really understand why we keep ostracising immigrants rather than trying to integrate them. I must be missing something.

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  6. Hmm. I think your second concept needs more action, Muriel. To challenge that guy/gal on their xenophobic behaviors. So, it won't infect others, and more importantly to insure the person recognizes that his/her (inevitable) comment that they are NOT prejudiced is pure malarkey.

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    1. I am still unsure as to how I can do this Roy. She seemed so full of, well, envy. How do I approach this euthanasia her?

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  7. No resolutions for me, Muriel and stop calling yourself old, what does this make me? Methusalem?

    I also wish for myself to be more honest but to be able to convey this honesty in a tactful way. Knowing me this is a Sisyphus task and I'd better forget about it.

    Have a great year, Muriel!

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    1. You are right, Barbara. Let's see how long my resolution will last...

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  8. There is a whole lot of "fluff" around, if you want to call it that. I agree - say what you mean, mean what you say. And if it's best to not do that then just say nothing. At least it's not a falsehood! Happy New Year!

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  9. I agree with Sarah - if you say what you think all the time, the world would be a dangerous place. I'd either politely state my point of view or leave the person to get on with life. I read a title in the Daily Telegraph the other day: "Migrants are given free access to our GP's". The "our" in that sentence niggled me. The media plays a role in fashioning public opinion - I was always told that journalism was supposed to tell the facts and not try to influence public opinion, but apparently it's not so...

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    1. The media are playing a dangerous game. I am struggling to find real analysis in the newspapers.

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  10. I guess that there is this feeling that once we manage to emigrate, we would like to keep others from doing it. Not sure. Canada only increases its population through immigration.

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    1. You are right. Why can't we accept that others have the same needs than us?

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  11. I think you were too nice on this one, you should have told her what you thought. A few weeks ago, I was talking to a Polish guy and I was saying I wasn't planning to go back to France any time soon. He then replied " Is it because of all the black people causing lots of trouble over there?"I couldn't believe my ears. He started to rant about African in France and also Ireland, so I listened patiently and then I answered : "Oh by the way, my husband is black". That shut him up for a while...

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    1. I don't understand why people can be so racist. What is the point of making such comments?

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  12. My question for you is this: How do you handle it when you write with such honesty about ppl you mret, work with or are friends with? What happens when they read your blog and get offended? Has that happened before? I agree with your wish for 2014. I want to write more authentically but am afraid of writing abt frienda or family who may get offended. Any tips? What abt that American friend if yours? Had she reaf this one yet? Curioys and need advice.....

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    1. Joy, my own mother doesn't read my blog. I told all my friends that I write but most don't read me. And if they did, well, I will have to improvise!

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    2. I am sooooo sorry for all the typos above, Muriel. I was on my phone and you know how that goes.....Sorry......And thanks for the response. Too funny! hehehe.....

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